‘You and Me’

For a change, I am trying to keep this post short and crisp here

“Hi Sandhya. How are you? ”, an excited Vikram asked her. “Hey Vikram. Yeah, doing good. So, how about you? Long time since we met, right? Still the same genius as you were in school?”, equally excited was her. “Hello…”, Jai had to intrude to get the attention of his girl friend. “Oh, sorry. Jai, this is Vikram and Vikram, this is Jai, my boy friend”, Sandhya completed the formality. “Oh, good. Hi Jai. So, Sandhya where are you working and how is life? And you look adorable”, Vikram continued with his focus on Sandhya. “What… Did I get my girl friend all the way to meet some jerky flirt?”, Jai was busy cursing Vikram non-vocally. For the next 10 minutes, Jai grew so uncomfortable that he thought it would have been great attending the lecture on “Paleontology – Digging deep into history”. It was when Vikram said “Bye” did Jai felt he has regained consciousness from a coma. Now, you know what followed. Don’t you? Sequence of statements called arguments and you know who wins it Of course, the girl as she finishes it with “He is just a friend but you are above him, an intimate soul mate of mine. Nothing to worry if I am going to be friends with guys. You are special.” Jai, had no other option other than to nod like he did when Sandhya asked him not to speak to his girl class mates. And the story ends here.

“My dear women, always heads it is”

So, what is happening here? I mean a guy loves a girl and she loves him back. And this love concept is great. You feel good about someone and want to be with them. But why is it we feel, “It is always You and Me – Alone.” In the process, do we realize that “the air of freedom” being replaced with vacuum? So, what is it we are feeling here – under the name of possessiveness? Now that I don’t have any girlfriend, I guess I can be judgmental about these relationships Here it goes…

(In the below revelations of my thought, I base it on a guy’s love over a girl as it was easy for me to write it that way. But I do believe girls as well have this ‘possessive’ issues. So, guys don’t feel bad You might have got the company of your love)

You know this guy is a flirt (Of course, everybody is, to certain degree). You know he is not a good guy (Are we divine?). At times, you also know the guy is more appealing than you (Damn it, Did I say this?). And when the above mentioned guy is interacting with your girl, why is it we get too disturbed or say, at least disturbed?

Yes, I care about the girl and having a bad guy around is not safe. Yes, I love to spend all my time with her and having a flirt around eats away my time. Yes, I do not want to lose her and having a more appealing guy makes me feel uncomfortable and insecure for whatever reasons. And this feeling is not limited to the above three. Just these are all what I felt. Replace the ‘I’ and ‘me’ with ‘you’ and ‘your’. Maybe you could have felt the same.

Do we call this love? I mean, the fact that we still could not be the part of her happiness just gives me a sense of incompleteness. She is not a material we have got out of liking. She is a girl of our dreams whom we have won over with our love. She has emotions and a world of her own. Being possessive is like pulling her out of her world and pushing her into your world with your own rules. Love is about sharing and not an autocracy of ruling over the other.

Just imagine this. Wouldn’t it be magical to feel we have got all we want – the girl of our Love? Wouldn’t it be ‘a never-experienced’ bliss to feel that “she completes me”? Wouldn’t life be more beautiful with “Love and respect for each other” than “Love and suspicion over each other”? When I think of my past life, I wish I had more trust in her. Common on, don’t say you trusted her and still felt possessive. Lie to me but not to yourself here.

“Trust her – that she is capable enough to handle problems. And she will start believing you can understand her problems and help her solve it”.

“Trust her – that for her, you mean happiness and others are all just momentary fun that will pass by. And she will start enjoying the momentary fun with you. This doubles the trust and happiness”.

“Trust her – that she always loves you over anything else in this world. And she will love you more”

Above all, “Trust that you live to share her happiness and you are the best for her”.

It would be much fun to get to know her friends (I mean, those friends who are ‘male’:)). It would be much fun to know your girl loves you more than the most handsome guy. Life will seem more beautiful with a loving wife, playful kids and caring parents @ home. Cherish the life where ‘You and Me’ is love. I love this thought ‘You and Me’:). Let us live ‘love’.